The mister and I discussed my name change…the one I blogged about here
I addressed the issue just as the therapist told me to address the things I’m feeling. I told him WHY it was important for me to change it; my grandfather who died in January WANTED me to have HIS last name. My father wanted me to carry his last name. I want to have my father’s name. It has always been important to me. I just never even thought about changing my name legally until the past year or so.
The mister is/was under the misconception that the name change is about being independent from him. I gently explained it’s about being who I have felt I have been for all of my life, but had no LEGAL claim to for years.
I told him this is my history and it wasn’t an attack on him as a man or husband. I told him when he got married he wasn’t expected to give up his name and I told him I don’t want to give up who I have been for all of my life I just want to add to it. To complete this circle.
I hope he understood, he claims he does.
We shall see.